“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie
The Tuesday before Thanksgiving last year my bestie K and I went to a yoga class at the gym and our favorite yoga instructor read us this quote by Melody Beattie. It was one of the best yoga sessions I have ever attended because our instructor set the entire intention toward gratitude. She reminded us that during this crazy holiday season where stress is really high while we attend a million activities and parties while trying to decorate our houses and make holiday treats and buy a ton of presents for our kids, family, and friends, that it is good to slow down and really appreciate the blessings in our lives.
A lot of my friends have been posting on Facebook something they are grateful for every day until Thanksgiving. Other friends have created a “gratitude tree” where they have a paper cut-out tree and every day they put a leaf on the tree with something they are grateful for until Thanksgiving (kind of like an Advent calendar) and I like this idea so much I think I will do it next year with my kids. Last year I wrote an A,B,C post about things I am grateful for inspired by my friend Mitch. All those things I’m grateful for still stand, but I wanted to re-iterate what I’m thankful for this year.
-I’m thankful for my family of origin. God blessed me with two loving parents and two incredible siblings. Even though my Mother is now in heaven and my Dad is far away, I still feel their love every day. And my brother and sister are two of the greatest people I’ve ever known. I’m grateful for their friendship, love, and support. I love the people they are, the people they married who couldn’t be more perfect for them and add so much to our family, and the little people they created. My nephews and niece are the cutest kids ever! I’m glad that my nephews are such good friends with their cousins and that they love spending time together. It’s true that some of your first best friends are your cousins.
-I’m thankful for the family the hubs and I created. I married the best man I’ve ever known and not a single day has gone by where I didn’t think that marrying him was the best decision I ever made. My sweet children add so much to my life and as usual they teach me more than I teach them. It has been such a joy to watch them learn and grow. I’m so grateful for the ease at which we have been able to add children to our family. Working where I work, I can never take our fertility for granted.
-I’m thankful for the family I married into. I’m so thankful for what a great family the hubs comes from because my mother and father-in-law are two of the nicest, kindest, most loving people I’ve ever known. They accepted me as part of the family the day I met them. They have helped the hubs and I out so much and they’ll never know how much I appreciate it, especially since they are the only grandparents my kids have who live nearby. I love that my kids are so close to their grandparents and have such a bond with them. Also, the hubs has some great siblings who also married some great people. We have the cutest nephews and niece ever and I’m so glad my kids are close with their cousins. The hubs’ sisters are some of my very best friends.
-I’m grateful for extended family and the love that has been given to me by uncles, aunts, cousins, second cousins, third cousins, great-aunts, and uncles, etc. My extended family might not all be close by, but they’re always there supporting me and my family. I’m grateful for my grandparents. I didn’t get to know my paternal grandfather very well since he lived back east and died when I was 8. My paternal grandmother was a force to be reckoned with and I’m glad I come from such a strong woman. My maternal grandparents moved back to Utah from Boston when I was 2 and I was always so glad that I grew up having them be a part of my every day life. My maternal grandfather was one of the best, kindest, most gentle men I’ve ever known. He was out-going, loved life, never met a stranger, treated everyone like his friend, and I can’t help but think I married a man just like him. My grandmother, while quite different from my grandpa, loved me and I’m grateful I got to know her better as an adult when the hubs and I took care of her.
-I’m grateful for good friends. My NYCbestie and bestie K have been steadfast and loyal friends who have gotten me through a lot of hard times. They are both my every day, in the trenches, through good times and bad, gigglefest, best friends. My friend, Shupee, and her husband flew all the way across the country so they could spend 20 minutes at my mother’s viewing. It was one of the most kindest, selfless things anyone has ever done for me. She supported me through my mother’s illness by sending me cards and presents, and I wonder if she knew at the time how much that saved my life. I have truly been blessed to call some of the most incredible people in this world my friends.
-I’m grateful for a warm home, a roof over my head, electricity, running water, enough clothes to change my outfit every day, and plenty of food, and a variety of it, to eat. I read an article last Christmas that said if you have any of those things, you are more fortunate than 90% of all the people who have ever lived on the earth. I try to remember this whenever I get bogged down in my first world problems.
-I’m thankful that my NYCbestie was not seriously affected by Hurricane Sandy and she is safe. Especially considering she doesn’t live that far from places that were disastrously affected like Hoboken, NJ and Staten Island.
-I’m grateful for the good employment of the hubs and myself. We’ve both worked in some crappy jobs and it’s nice we both now are employed in jobs and careers we love. I’m grateful for the people I work with and the clients we work for. I can honestly say my life has been blessed the last 6 years because of the type of work I’m involved in.
-I’m grateful for Mountain Dew and cheetos.
-I’m grateful for the great neighborhood we live in and kind, friendly, and helpful neighbors. We moved here 3 years ago this Thanksgiving and it remains one of the best decisions we ever made for our family. The kids go to a great school, have made great friends, and we are surrounded by great families.
-I’m grateful for my memories. I’m grateful for having a mother who loved me unconditionally. I’m grateful that if she can’t be here right now, that God gave me a mother-in-law whom I love like she was my own mother. Sometimes I forget she didn’t birth me herself. I’m grateful that if my kids can only have one grandma right now, that God gave them the best one.
-I’m grateful for words and writing and having an outlet to express myself. I’m grateful for books and for a mother who instilled in me a love of books.
-I’m grateful for the Gospel of Jesus Christ and the peace it brings me. I’m grateful for the atonement and for the opportunity to repent of my mistakes. I’m grateful for the love and grace of my Savior because I know that I’m so far from perfect I could never measure up.
I hope that I can continue to reflect on all my blessings, not just during the holiday season, but all year long.